Hello everyone! This topic has been on my mind these last few weeks. One of my good friends came to me a few days ago expressing an on going dilemma with a friend. She’s been feeling unfulfilled, unsure, and a sense of jealously from that friendship. I told her what I’m going to discuss in this post, and it really helped her gain clarity on the situation. She knew exactly what she needed to do.
I’ve had my fair share of failed friendships, now that I’m older and wiser I can spot it a mile away. If you feel your relationships are one sided, or even toxic. Consider taking a step back and look at the situation from an observation level. Ask yourself “How am I showing up in my relationships?” “What kind of partner am I?” Once you see things from an unbiased perspective, and hold yourself accountable. You’re ready to decipher who stays and who goes. It doesn’t have to be this huge dramatic ordeal either, you have the option to cut out whoever whenever. This can be done by slowly backing away, and declining offers to hangout. If you want to reach the next level you’re going to have to let go of the energy suckers.
People you can mentor/help
Once you let go of the toxic people, you may have people left who aren’t necessarily bad but just not lifting you higher. I’m sure there are people in your life that are negative, judgmental, and unsupportive. Although they have been in your life for years, such as family members or even coworkers. Sometimes it’s not as simple as having the option of cutting them out and never speak to them again. Keep those people at a distance of course. How can someone help you grow if they aren’t willing to grow themselves? Do what you can to inspire and help them, but remember you cannot change anyone. They have to want it themselves, but sometimes you can be the motivation for that person to change. Never risk your own happiness and sanity in hopes of fixing someone, you will go down with them. It’s important to help the next person, don’t go thinking you’re on some high horse that you’re better than anyone because you’ve learned certain lessons earlier than some. We are all on different paths and journeys, lessons present themselves at the right time when you are ready to learn. Let’s all help each other out!
People on your frequency
These should be your close friends and support system. Surround yourself with people who have similar morals, aspirations, dreams, and goals as you do. Don’t take this as you’re better than or above anyone. Although, we are all on different frequencies and vibrations. Ever hear the phrase “Your vibe attracts your tribe?” When you have anxiety, depression, jealousy, and negativity in your life it lowers your vibration. Which is why most peoples lives aren’t going how they’ve envisioned it, combined with feeling drained and unfulfilled. In result, this attracts more negative people in your life like a magnet! So when you raise your vibration, people on that same frequency attract to you. The universe doesn’t discriminate, it reacts in abundance to whatever energy you are putting out. Karma is real, it’s a universal law. Although you can’t cheat the life lessons, some things are written in to shape you into a stronger version of yourself. You are constantly being guided, trust that. There are people out there just like you, when you follow your passions it seems like those people appear out of no where.
People you aspire to be like
You should only take inspiration from others and never wish to be anyone but yourself. Since most people don’t necessarily have a mentor in their lives guiding them every step of the way. This could be an author, life coach, or entrepreneur you look up to. These are the people who have achieved and living your dream. These people will elevate you to the next level, especially when you don’t have that support in your current reality. Who know’s those people you look up to may even become your friends one day, the possibilities are endless!
Comment down below.. Have you ever let go a toxic friend, partner, or family member? What was the outcome? How did it change you?
Thank you babes! I can’t wait to read your experiences, I’m sure it’s something everyone can relate to.
Spread light and pure love.